Ep. 34 / Identifying Feelings: Alexithymia, Emotion and Autism

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danielle sullivan emotional intelligence coach emotion and autismWelcome back to the Neurodiverging Podcast! Today, certified life coach Danielle Sullivan discusses the basics of what emotional intelligence is and why it can be difficult for neurodivergent people to develop emotional intelligence skills. We're also discussing alexithymia, how folks with autism process emotions differently than neurotypical people, and some easy interventions you can try at home to improve your own emotional intelligence skills, too!

Click here to learn more about "What Is This Feeling?" -  Danielle's introductory, self-paced course to increase your own emotional intelligence!


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Works Cited:

  • Samson AC, Phillips JM, Parker KJ, Shah S, Gross JJ, Hardan AY. Emotion dysregulation and the core features of autism spectrum disorder. J Autism Dev Disord. 2014 Jul;44(7):1766-72. doi: 10.1007/s10803-013-2022-5. PMID: 24362795.¬† https://med.stanford.edu/content/dam/sm/parkerlab/documents/Emotion_Dysregulation_and_the_Core_Features_of_Autism_Spectrum_Disorder.pdf
  • Sifneos PE. Short-Term Psychotherapy and Emotional Crisis. 1972, Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press.
  • Gaggero, Giulia et al. (2020.) A Scientometric Review of Alexithymia: Mapping Thematic and Disciplinary Shifts in Half a Century of Research. Front. Psychiatry, 10 December 2020. doi:10.3389/fpsyt.2020.611489.¬†https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2020.611489/full
  • Kinnaird, E., Stewart, C., & Tchanturia, K. (2019). Investigating alexithymia in autism: A systematic review and meta-analysis.¬†European psychiatry : the journal of the Association of European Psychiatrists,¬†55, 80‚Äď89. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.eurpsy.2018.09.004
  • Surman CB, Biederman J, Spencer T, Miller CA, McDermott KM, Faraone SV. Understanding deficient emotional self-regulation in adults with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder: a controlled study. Atten Defic Hyperact Disord. 2013 Sep;5(3):273-81. doi: 10.1007/s12402-012-0100-8. Epub 2013 Feb 15. PMID: 23413201; PMCID: PMC4009378.

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Ep 31 / Kate McNulty’s Love and Asperger’s: Relationships on the Spectrum

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Today I’m talking with Kate McNulty, an autistic Certified Gottman Therapist, Certified AASECT Sex Therapist, and licensed clinical social worker. We’re discussing her new book, Love and Asperger’s: Practical Strategies To Help Couples Understand Each Other and Strengthen Their Connection, which came out in October 2020. Love and Asperger’s is a practical guide to maintaining … Read more

Ep. 29 / Fighting the Stigma of Mental Illness and Neurodiversity with Dr. Roy Richard Grinker

Welcome back! Today’s guest is Dr. Roy Richard Grinker, Professor of Anthropology at George Washington University and Editor-in-chief of Anthropological Quarterly. We’re discussing his newest book, Nobody‚Äôs Normal: How Culture Created the Stigma of Mental Illness, which came out in January 2021 from Norton. Dr. Grinker conducted research on the epidemiology of autism, which he … Read more

Ep. 27/ Mindfulness for Neurodiverse Families with Dr. Rabia Subhani

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My guest today is Dr. Rabia Subhani, neuropsychologist, certified mindfulness teacher (many times over!), and mother of an autistic child. Rabia is the creator of Mindful Village¬ģ, a secular eight to twelve week program geared towards the parents and caregivers of¬† neurodiverse children. On this episode of Neurodiverging, Dr. Rabia and I are discussing what … Read more

Review: The Anxiety Book for Trans People

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The Anxiety Book for Trans People: How to Conquer Your Dysphoria, Worry Less and Find Joy by Freiya Benson

Did you know thattrans anxiety book freiya benson many autistic folks are gender-diverse and/or transgender? The inverse is true as well; many trans folks are autistic! Anxiety is unfortunately common in both groups, but not much has been written about how anxiety specifically affects trans and genderqueer people, leaving us to shuffle around in the dark to try to find answers.

But no longer! I was thrilled to find Freiya Benson's new book, written specifically for trans and genderqueer people who are struggling with anxiety. Check out my review and consider purchasing it, or asking your local library to get a copy!

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Fantasy Fiction by Autistic Authors That I’m Excited to Read (2021)

I'm on a mission to read more fantasy by autistic authors. Here are the books I'm starting with.

I'm an autistic woman who's also a big reader, and one of my ongoing goals is to read more books by autistic (and other neurodivergent) authors. Since finding these authors can take some research, I'm sharing some of my finds here for you to read too!

So, for you and for me, here is a short list of books in the umbrella genre of fantasy by authors who identify as autistic.

If you have any recommendations for neurodivergent authors I should look into (or you want to pitch yourself!), I'd love to hear from you. I'm hoping to update this list often.

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6 of the Best Parenting Podcasts for Neurodivergent Families

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