Stuck At Home? 3 Steps to Organize for Autism, ADHD, Executive Dysfunction, and More

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Hey, friends. Recently, a great many of us have become families stuck at home with our kiddos (and I hope you are all hanging in). The change in schedules, routines, and daily needs can be huge, and families with neurodivergent members can have even more upheaval than average. I have been mostly stay-at-home with two … Read more

How I Was Not Shocked to Learn I Was Autistic As An Adult (In My 30s!)

I wasn’t diagnosed as being on the spectrum until after my second child was born and my life fell apart. Why are so many autistic women misdiagnosed or not diagnosed at all? Hear my story. 🎧 Rather listen than read this post? This post on my autism journey is based off of Episode 2 of the Neurodiverging … Read more

How to Set Goals

Setting Goals and Perseverance

There are many ways to set goals, but one of the best ways is to start with high-level goals. Then, for each of those high-level goals, define the tasks that it would take to accomplish those goals. Set milestones so that you can measure how you are doing at each step. It’s okay to make adjustments along the way, even to the high-level goals. But, the key is to use this as a roadmap to keep going. That is the best way to get to where you want to go. Perseverance will play a big role here.

If you give up at any point, don’t beat yourself up. Consider what caused you to give up, and see if you can make an adjustment to your plan to account for that issue. Then, either start over or, if possible, pick up where you left off. When you finally accomplish your goals and milestones, it will be that much more worth the effort.

If you find that you are constantly giving up on your goals, you may want to get some professional help. This can either be in the form of coaching or in extreme cases, you may want to seek the advice of a counselor. Sometimes this can make the difference in breaking the barrier of quitting before meeting your goals. A mentor or counselor can give you the necessary guidance and may even be able to help you define better goals. It could be you just weren’t following the right plan.

Behavior-Based Goals & Outcome-Based Goals

We all know that goal-oriented people are more successful, happier, and more productive. But setting and keeping goals is a skill, and like any skill, there’s a right way to do it. One thing you might find helpful is separating your goals into behavior-based and outcome-based models. There are a few differences between the two, and knowing which is which can be key. 

Behavior-Based Goals

Behavior-based goals are typically changes you make to how you act. For instance, handling stress better, being nicer to others, and spending less time procrastinating are all examples of behavior-based goals. They focus on how you personally feel and behave, rather than just looking purely at the outcome of your actions. 

Behavior-based goals play into outcome-based goals, but they aren’t the same. When you change how you think and feel, often you’ll notice a change in results. But that’s not the focus, it’s just a pleasant side-effect. 

In order to make behavior-based goals, you’ll need to reflect on how you feel when you’re completing a certain task. Do you get snippy with coworkers in the mornings, or feel tired when you’re trying to meet a deadline? Focusing on the way you feel when you aren’t performing well, then making a concrete effort to change can help to make you more pleasant and productive. 

Outcome-Based Goals

Outcome-based goals are changes you make to your performance. For instance, answering your emails faster, reducing the amount of errors you make, and getting projects done on time are all outcome-based goals. They focus on the outcome of your actions, rather than how you feel about performing your tasks.

Outcome-based goals tend to be easier to quantify. You can count the number of emails you respond to before lunch, and you can keep track of the amount of time you spend on a certain project. For this reason, most people focus on making outcome-based goals. After all, your progress is so much simpler to quantify. 

Making Them Work Together

The real key to success is melding behavior-based goals with outcome-based goals. Often you can get to the root of a problem by changing your behavior, and then watch as your outcomes change. Sometimes it’s hard to separate the two, and that’s okay. Just don’t lose sight of the fact that your performance is a mix of both. Having the right mindset is just as important as working hard if you want to succeed.

What Is Neurodiversity? Intro to Neurodiverging

Today's episode serves as an introduction to what I'll be talking about through this podcast series, including my answers to these questions:

  • What does neurodivergent mean?

  • What is neurodivergence?

  • What is neurodiversity?

  • And why are they important to talk about?

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