Book Review: The Anxiety Book for Trans People: How to Conquer Your Dysphoria, Worry Less and Find Joy by Freiya Benson

The Anxiety Book for Trans People review

The Anxiety Book for Trans People: How to Conquer Your Dysphoria, Worry Less and Find Joy by Freiya Benson

Expected publication: May 21st 2021 by Jessica Kingsley Publishers.
Thank you to NetGalley and Jessica Kingsley Publishers for offering an advanced copy of this book in exchange for my honest thoughts.

The Anxiety Book for Trans People is an accessible, easy-to-read guide on handling anxiety as a trans person. Author Freiya Benson disclaims early on that she's decided to use "trans" as an umbrella term for anyone not cis, and as a genderqueer/ agender person, I thought that worked out fine.

Benson approaches the intersectionality of being trans and having anxiety with a casual, personable style, and covers such topics as social anxiety, handling anxiety about medical services, coming out as trans/ not cis, and anxiety's effects on dysphoria.

Interspersed with these chapters are short Q&A interviews with other trans folks who deal with anxiety, which offer welcome additional perspectives to Benson's own experiences.

I think this book is sorely needed. It's targeted at the general audience with no assumptions made about a reader's academic knowledge about gender identity, transgender issues, or anxiety disorders. It offers good, basic practical advice and favors realistic tips over theoretical discussion.

That said, there were some places where I felt like a little more reference to theory would have been helpful, or would have grounded the advice somewhat. I also feel that if you have some background in gender studies, trans studies, etc., and/or if you've been dealing with anxiety and/or have been out as trans for a while, a lot of this information will not be new to you. The book still works well as an introduction, though, or a reminder. I enjoyed it very much.

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Fantasy Fiction by Autistic Authors That I’m Excited to Read (2021)

I'm on a mission to read more fantasy by autistic authors. Here are the books I'm starting with.

I'm an autistic woman who's also a big reader, and one of my ongoing goals is to read more books by autistic (and other neurodivergent) authors. Since finding these authors can take some research, I'm sharing some of my finds here for you to read too!

So, for you and for me, here is a short list of books in the umbrella genre of fantasy by authors who identify as autistic.

If you have any recommendations for neurodivergent authors I should look into (or you want to pitch yourself!), I'd love to hear from you. I'm hoping to update this list often.

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Ep. 23 / Interview with Clif Adkins, author of Martian: A Non-Science Fiction Guide for How to Love, Raise, and Possibly Be Someone Not Quite Human

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On Gender Essentialism and the Autistic Woman’s Experience: The Kiss Quotient by Helen Hoang

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This book review was originally published on Goodreads.

The Kiss Quotient by Helen Hoang is a pretty formulaic romance novel. The premise is a reverse Pretty Woman with a neurodivergent twist: an autistic woman in her late 20s wants to learn how to date and have sex men will like, and believes the problem to be in herself, rather in the fact that she keeps choosing terrible men. She hires a male sex worker to practice sex and dating, and you can guess what happens next.

It's a cute premise. Unfortunately, the male characters are all terrible people, and most of the women are, too. The plot holds no surprises. The sex is good for the characters but hilarious for the reader. So, on a base level, I can’t really recommend it.

But, the main character is an autistic woman, being written by an autistic woman, and y'all, I saw so much of myself in her, it was embarrassing. And heartbreaking.

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Want a book about autistic women? Here’s my 2021 Reading List

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I want to read more books about autistic women in 2021. Want to read along with me? I’m an autistic woman who’s also a big reader. I’m on track to read about 80 books this year. I know a lot of people manage more than that, but I’ve got kids, a job, and a blog, … Read more

Reflections on Our House Is on Fire: Book Review

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Need Gentle Parenting Ideas? Try These 3 Expert Books.

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After I posted my collaborative parenting series for ADHD and autistic families, I got a few emails asking me for further resources to learn about collaborative and gentle parenting. I’ve put together a guide of my top 3 favorite books about gentle parenting that I hope will help you out. These are all books that … Read more

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